tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post4951508586443314181..comments2023-11-02T09:10:48.866-04:00Comments on the words i type...: i am...Just Kelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04712039954669191129noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-60829518826114417202010-12-16T16:02:35.200-05:002010-12-16T16:02:35.200-05:00I like your response. As men, when we come acros...I like your response. As men, when we come across aggression & bump heads with it (no matter which gender its encased within) it can feel as if it's some kind of attack. The utter fear of punkdom will NOT allow us to be attacked without a reaction! So, that's usually when we tend to puff up, act out & man up, whether physically, vocally, or intellectually. Only, that's not always the correct way to roll either... it's just the general response most of us will manifest. <br /><br />In truth, we're ALL works in steady progress (hopefully!). We all need to learn how to deal w/ personalities that are 180-degrees different than our own without trying to stifle them. We have to learn how to apply finesse to OUR words when words come at us that don't mirror our own, & most especially when attitudes chafe against our own... <br /><br />& we all need adapt to more natural ways to just BE.<br /><br /><br />One.Moanerplicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02750801733829859144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-65329217309736234972010-12-16T14:49:08.405-05:002010-12-16T14:49:08.405-05:00thank you Beautiful Sister Lovebabz! and may you a...thank you Beautiful Sister Lovebabz! and may you and the children enjoy a wonderful holiday season!<br /><br />after break-ups i always reassess and reaffirm, just as i am sure you are doing. so in the new year, it is my hope and prayer that you attract someone who has also embraced and has the balance of his hard and soft side.Just Kelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712039954669191129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-22520806511395404362010-12-16T09:12:08.457-05:002010-12-16T09:12:08.457-05:00I am thinking about these kinds of things for myse...I am thinking about these kinds of things for myself as well. Coming out of relationship with someone who thought I was too hard, tough, made me think about who I want to be going forward. I am ready to embrace a more softer side. His opinion of me has to be weighed against his insecurities and his own strengths. But there is something to be said about thinking about what does it mean to be a woman and how we balance our tough world exterior with our softer feminine side.<br /><br />Happy Holidays beautifu one!Babz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-10151228634929406492010-12-16T07:51:44.841-05:002010-12-16T07:51:44.841-05:00thank you for stopping through and commenting mr. ...thank you for stopping through and commenting mr. ross...<br /><br />i started the post with <i>"i am hard or at least i've been told that i am"</i> because i don't see in myself what other people see or might see. <br /><br />the incident at church really makes me laugh... because we just knew that the interview would turn out a different way. we weren't really <b>punked</b>, we were just put in our places... men are the heads and a leader will take his place.<br /><br />sometimes hardness is really fueled by the presence of other hard women or the absence of men - now that's another post for another day... <br /><br />i'm not a woman with a hair-trigger temper ready to pop off however after some introspection i see that i can lay a lot of the hardness down and as you said, just be.<br /><br />hey miz... using discernment is key. i serve in leadership capacities in church and at work but i've seen that at a time or two it has spilled over. i love and appreciate all sides of me. it just about keeping it balanced... thank you lady!Just Kelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712039954669191129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-681471349059347232010-12-15T23:08:01.294-05:002010-12-15T23:08:01.294-05:00This was brutally honest, really. I have had to be...This was brutally honest, really. I have had to be agressive in my life, esp during business and at work since i hold a position that was held by men, and was seen as the low-one on the totem pole. I don't carry this much over to my personal life unless i feel someone is attempting to walk over me, then i stand. There is nothing wrong with being strong, but we must use discernment to determine when our strength is actually a weakness, or a useless mechanism to get what we want. I don't pretend to be weak, never will, i am the most vulnerable of all and yet can use all i got to muster up the will to overcome. So i guess i'm saying ain't nothing really wrong with who you are or had to become, since you already realize that there too is a softer side to you that everyone loves and appreciates as much as the stronger side of you. BE You girl!Mizrepresenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992754393960138393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-79779586457327463842010-12-15T19:44:53.839-05:002010-12-15T19:44:53.839-05:00I don't know if you're being mad hard on y...I don't know if you're being mad hard on yourself, brutally honest or simply accept who you are & own it. <br /><br />Some of my peeps were raised in the Boogie Down, in Brooklon, in Hollis & they tend to be MO BLUNT, MO APT To GO OFF on a mofo, raise MO HELL, be MO HARD, MO LOUD, MO MEAN, MO GANGSTA all in order to survive... & not be seen as vics, or punks/ punkettes. <br /><br />I guess it's better to release your stuff than to keep it bottled up & become a candidate for a potential heart attack or stroke down the line. <br /><br />But sometimes I wonder if it's worth all the stress, all the messiness, all the emotional ish & all the energy it takes to be HARD when there are times when you'd rather mellow the hell out & simply just wanna BE. <br /><br />Smell me?<br /><br />One.Moanerplicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02750801733829859144noreply@blogger.com