tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post7743957238812882116..comments2023-11-02T09:10:48.866-04:00Comments on the words i type...: I SurrenderJust Kelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04712039954669191129noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-15553960545657588362008-12-12T20:19:00.000-05:002008-12-12T20:19:00.000-05:00Ladies... Thank you very much for your insight and...Ladies... Thank you very much for your insight and comments. <BR/><BR/>Kalyn... that's exactly the cycle. I want so much to end it. I'm working to end it.<BR/><BR/>Kiaya... I'm accepting that hug Ma! I have to really find balance and learn to say no. I've been feeling like I'm at my breaking point and I still haven't done all that is needed for myself.Just Kelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712039954669191129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-70742826989562216802008-12-10T19:33:00.000-05:002008-12-10T19:33:00.000-05:00I think this is common to 'givers'; I do this too....I think this is common to 'givers'; I do this too. Or I should say, I do it less now than I used to. I am a counselor by nature and by profession and that makes people naturally gravitate to me with their problems. I don't judge, I don't condemn, but I nurture and console. <BR/><BR/>Like you, I found myself looking around one day for someone to hold my tears, only to realize there was no one around who was strong enough! How selfish of me!<BR/><BR/>We teach the people around us how to love us and take care of us. I assumed no one else could do as good a job as I do. <BR/><BR/>So, I set out to create a little more balance. I do not let any and all cry on my shoulders anymore. They walk away feeling better but I'm now burdened. And I have figured out the one or two who are more than strong enough to bear me. <BR/><BR/>But most importantly, and you've already recognized it, I take my burdens to God, the ultimate healer, and I leave them there.<BR/><BR/>I'm sending you a hug, honey. It's gon' be alright, I know it.Kiayaphdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11094108050143370728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-10197141786535881442008-12-10T19:03:00.000-05:002008-12-10T19:03:00.000-05:00I can SO relate. I do this all the time. A friend ...I can SO relate. I do this all the time. A friend told me that I'm weird because... I can be telling them something absolutely horrible that just happened to me yet I'll have a smile on my face. I told her that it is simply because if I let myself frown, or show my frustration, I'll cry, get angry, and frustrated. But I can't do that because I gotta be strong for everyone else. She didn't like that answer, but it's the one she got. I try to let God help me, and sometimes, He gives me the right moment, with the right friend, and the right situation to just let it all out. And I do. And then I go back to being the strong person that I'm not, and everyone tells me their troubles and sorrows.<BR/><BR/>And the cycle repeats. In the beginning, you feel great because you just let all the emotions and things you've been holding hostage go. In the middle, you realize what you do, and at the end, it hurts so bad because you just need to let it out, you want to cry but you can't, and try as you may it just doesn't want to work. And then it does. And it starts over.Kalynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780873672743958098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-548342848443605055.post-13442425317580878132008-12-10T19:02:00.000-05:002008-12-10T19:02:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Kalynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780873672743958098noreply@blogger.com