Tuesday, July 14, 2009

... I


Maslow created a a theory in psychology... a hierarchy of the basic needs of humans...
Dr. Oz, from Oprah, he also spoke of the 5 basic needs...
The range of the basic needs - from air to water to food to shelter to sex - varies... depending on the theories...

I went around to the QuietStorm and to Lovebabz's abodes and I see the question posted

"What Do I (You) Need?"

And the initial answer that pops in my mind is....

Not a damn thang!


I need for and want for little... sometimes nothing... because my needs are met.
Shelter - check
Food - check
Clothing - check
Oxygen - check
Sex...

However today I just bought a new pair of sandals... because I am short and I needed a new pair of sandals that will give me some height but I don't need to be uncomfortable so I need a sandal to offer height and comfort, be inexpensive, and the right color. I opted for brown and it changed my entire outfit. Now I'm out $60.00 and though the sandals look and feel wonderful, I'm pissed that I spent money at all. Now would I be happy or unhappy if buying these fabulous sandals was necessary and my need was truly met?

I need my family... my blood-related peoples, my church family, my work family... even y'all my blog peoples.
I need my job... once again, I'm happy to go unscathed from unemployment, but times are tight and this j.o.b. is my resource...
And on that note - I need my SOURCE

See when I think about all the things I think I need... more money, joy, laughter, love, nature, a better neighborhood to live in, goals, achievements, confidence, dreams... I go to HIM. When I think about all I have, my heart says thank you. He is my source, the source of all provision.

We confuse... let me personalize this... I confuse my wants and needs all of the time. Sometimes I need another "something" like I need a whole in my head. I do not recognize God as my Source every time I feel the need. Just today I realize how I created a situation that I did not want because I thought I needed a little attention. I needed my ego stroked. I needed a compliment. At times I will indulge when I feel the need... chocolate, new shoes, text and instant messaging... I'll call my girlfriends, my male friends... I'll seek out Maxwell or Amel Larrieux... but those are all false fillers, like eating sugar when I wanna stay alert or drinking soda when I'm thirsty. My source supplies my needs, even the ones I don't know I need, and I need no more.

This posting exercise has helped me recognize my needs and they are many... such as I need to forgive and then I need to let go... I need more faith and then I need to release many fears... I need self-discipline... I need boldness... I need to surrender... I need joy and I need my SOURCE - he's the great provider.

5 comments:

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

I am honored to have inspired a search for new insight. I like your "needs" list. It is funny how we lose sight of what is really important and dwell on the things we don't have.

I am a sucker for a cute pair of shoes. I am struggling to stay out of stores right now, LOL!

Lovebabz said...

Discerning our needs is an ongoing education.

And Girl, who couldn't use a FAB pair of sandals!

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon said...

I have to take a moment and think about my needs vs my wants. I am sure the two are intertwined.

Your need to forgive is a wonderful one. I did learn that one and it was so freeing when I understood it.

MsKnowitAll said...

Ladies... the sandals are the ish. I should have posted a pick of them. They changed my outfit from humdrum to pop! And I walked in them without falling over. Nice.

MsKnowitAll said...

Queen... I confuse my needs & wants all of the time. Forgiveness is ongoing. It's an exercise I like to revisit over and over again.