Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Year-end countdown... Thriving on Drama

While sitting at home, not too long ago, on a Saturday night... I finally watched "He's Just Not That Into You".

Not a bad film...

While I had (in my youthful past) and still fall into moments of sounding and even acting like the character Gigi, there was one part of the movie that struck a cord...

There is a part in the movie when Alex and Gigi were in the bar and he tells her that women thrive on drama and how we wait "until the last minute on deadlines, or on phone bills, because you love the drama of not knowing whether you'll make it" I simply shook my head and raised my eyebrows. It may or may not be a true statement but it is true for me.

When I reflect on my 2009 and every situation I encountered, the good and the bad, I can't help but ponder the choices I made and how they relate to my circumstances.

I tell myself I don't like drama. I pride myself on not being a drama queen but some of the choices I make create drama in my life such as not saving enough money, spending frivolously, not opening bills, ignoring collection calls, eating too much of the wrong foods, not exercising, procrastinating... there is no wonder why I'm dealing with hardships. I helped to create them!

I am amazed sometimes at how the universe forces you to deal with your problems... every valley that I fell in caused me to be still... you can't go out, eat out or spend frivolously with no money! I was forced to look within and see what was keeping me from taking care of my personal matters and then I was able to take inventory of my life, pick up the pieces and begin to rebuild.

I had a rough year but I survived a health scare, losing money, losing friends and lay-offs on the job. I also had some good times... I reactivated my facebook account, reconnected with old friends, explored and enjoyed my freedom, vacationed, relaxed and reignited a high school flame.
In 2009 I thrived on drama and I teetered on whether or not I was gonna make it but... I made it. There's nothing like a little drama to make you seek and strive for balance and most of all I am grateful for my hardships. Without them I wouldn't have grown, I wouldn't feel my strength and I wouldn't be at peace.


Luv said...

i watched that movie a couple of months ago and that also was one of the things that made me pause... i never looked at it as being drama.. i don't open bills if i don't have the money to pay for it...etc..

But i have wondered how do you know if you are the exception or the rule...and does it really matter as long as you get what u want in the end.

here's to having a better 2010..start today putting the plan in need to wait for the ball to drop

The True Urban Queen said...

I have not watched the movie. Just the title of it scares me. . .hahaha to my craziness.

Anyway, I am a drama queen. That statement is me. I wait until the day of then whine when things go downhill.

I am working on making better decisions in 2010 to avoid the "I brought it on myself" drama of 2009.

Well, I hope that 2010 is a better year for you and that we finally meet.

Lovebabz said...

We are indeed the architects of our lives. We create the lives we are living. This is hard to understand. Na dhard to accept. We often like to think that things happen accidently. But I have lived long enough, have been on my knees long enough in prayer to know.... I have created all the mess. So we must own our bills when they arrive, apologize whne we are in the worng, forgive so we can move on and stay prayerful so that Grace can help us face our challenges with maturity and dignity.

Lovebabz said...

Happy New Year! ((HUGS))

Anonymous said...

Amazing as always

MsKnowitAll said...

Hugs to you Sister Lovebabz! And thank you, always, for your wisdom.

Queen... Yes here's to 2010 & making better, wiser decisions. Less drama!

Luv... I think we are, in our lives, exceptions & rules. It's just a matter of when, but it really doesn't matter as long as we are content in the end. ;-)

@ All: Happy New Year to You! May you be blessed with health, wealth, contentment, enjoyment and favor!

MzNewy said...

Happy New Year Ms. KiA.

Remember, a little drama is healthy... Too much drama is a headache waiting to happen.

GC (God's Child) said...

found ur blog through MzNewy
thanks 4 the movie recommendation
I realize I have created drama in my own life also--and it's amazing how much of this is learned behavior. But I'm tired of it.
This year will be different.

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