Wednesday, October 14, 2009

I Know My Type...

I seem to attract 3 types of men...
This post idea came to me this morning as I am walking to the train station heading to work. I was about to turn the corner of my block when here he comes...


Now, I am a non-discriminating dater. I do, however, have a preference, the undeniable type that I am attracted to. But a dude who looks like the 2 above, but also gripping the hell out of a beer can, ashen and it's only 9:45 in the morning... not MY choice.

And I know before he even reaches me what he is going to say. Do you have a minute brutiful?, Can I leave you my number ma?, Have a good day gorgeous... I politely smile, tell him to enjoy his day and turn the corner.

Now there is a variant of this type that I also seem to attract... he has the potential to do great things. He's book smart. He finished high school... maybe... but right now? He's unemployed. He lives with his children's mother and also at his grandmama house when wifey is mad at him. He gives me his number on a paper bag and tells me not to call until next week when he adds minutes to his phone...

Once again... not necessarily bad dudes... just not the dudes FOR ME.

Now my 2nd type always makes me shake my head and sigh...


With a one-two glance, I can check a man and see if he has on a wedding band or if he has the tan line around his ring finger from wearing a wedding band... yet that never seems to stop this man from trying to holla. I am not interested in Mr. Married Man Single... I am not interested in being Ms. Sideline and I have no idea what vibes I am giving off but I desire a man of my own... not one I have to share.

And then there's my last type... This is an inside joke among my friends. You see, with my full hips and short stature (making me plus size) I already know I am not everybody's cup of tea... but when it comes to this man...

Oooh oooh Mr. Lover Man... Clive, Garfield, Donovan, Douglas, Elston, Rohan, Everton, Linford... or whatever his name may be... When I come 'round, my friends... (except for CB) don't. stand. a. chance. LOL
Now there is something sensual about a west indian man... I happen to be of west indian descent... and the combination of beautiful teeth, a deep voice and... the accent... is enough to make me swoon.

So... my type...? The ones I see and my heart beats double time...?


It is what it is...

6 comments:

MzNewy said...

Funny...I was thinking the same thing...I was attracting "Mr. Not quite right" LOL Then I started using different bait on my hook.

MsKnowitAll said...

MzNewy... I miss you so much girlie!
I have to visit you to see what's up.

See... I need to take a look at my hook because what I'm frustrated with what I'm attracting... LOL

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon said...

When Mr.Is he Serious? He must not see the disgust on the face of my soul . . approaches me I always wonder what is wrong with me.

Am I letting of some kind of sign, signal or scent that I want him to approach. I try to walk the street and stand at bus stops mean mugging.

Everyone is entitled to have a type. And shouldn't settle for less.

MsKnowitAll said...

Queen... the funniest thing... me and my girlfriend had gone to lunch today. This delivery guy was driving out of the driveway/staff entrance and we were coming back in. He was wearing his Rasta hat. My co-worker his snickering like a cheshire cat and as we pass, he's trying to holla.

You can't help what you attract but settling... nah man! LOL

Ms. Liryc said...

See, this is what my bestie and I have been talking about.. She says we as black educated women are too picky and choosy.. LOL LOL.. (mind you she's married) She states that we have these criteria that men have to meet and though we may meet a man who isn't up to our standards if he's hard working he should be given a chance.

I immediately tell her to take a good look at her husband and tell me where does he fit in her equation, an instantly she points out as his "he's not huggy kissy" quality and says that she settled..

Girl I cannot blame you for liking west indian men, they like the curvaceousness of a woman, they like that we have some meat on our bones, but I have my limitations on them too.. (LOL LOL)

MsKnowitAll said...

Liryc... People will definitely trivialize issues to get out of dating someone. A guy told me once that he dumped a girl because he didn't like her nose...

Potential dudes are possibles. "Do nothings" are not. They may make great friends and I'm always open to that.