I love relationships. I love being in relationships. I love doing couple's things and being able to look across the room and say, "Wow, that's mine! Smile and wink and share the knowing glances that only you two share. I think that I'm a balanced, a fuller person especially when I'm in a good relationship.
At the same time, relationships are never about the I, but about the WE - at least they're not supposed to be. Sometimes while doing the WE you lose yourself. Lose the things you love, the places you like to go, the people you like to see and the things that inspire and empower your everyday. I should have personalized that... Being in my relationship, I find it hard, almost a fight for me to do the things that I really enjoy for a number of reasons (not all bad reasons). So I find time for the things I like and I do them alone... sometimes.
It's a battle of the WE vs. ME. It's July now and I've got the rest of the summer to look forward to. It's hot out and my eyes are open for the next concert, the live performances, poetry nights, museum exhibits and street festivals. Little does my Love know, the Me is about to win!
WE vs. ME
We like shopping in the Home Depot, Lowe's and any home improvement store
Me likes sitting on the beach, sipping on something cold, getting toasted by the sun
We like strolling through the isles of BJs, Costco or Target
Me likes sitting in a dark theater watching the latest Blockbuster
We like picking out lawn furniture and putting it together
Me likes sitting on the lawn furniture while listening to Erykah, India, Jill, Goapele, Dwele, Anthony, Musiq, Maxwell, and Amel Larrieux while I'm sipping on a screwdriver reading Tananarive Due or Bernice L. McFadden
We like staying at work until 8:00 at night
Me likes hanging around the j-o-b until 8:00 so that I can catch the free movie at dusk
We don't like driving in the rain
Me picks up an umbrella, some rain boots and keeps it moving on public transportation
We like to stay at home and enjoy each other's company
Me likes socializing outside of the home until the wee hours of the morning
I know this is probably wrong but... WE are good but I like ME better and before resentment settles in, I think I gotta give in for some ME time.