Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Kiss My Placenta

"How Dare You Disrespect My Queendom?"

Erykah Badu...
... she's quirky
... some call her crazy

When I spoke to my mom last night, who is an avid reader of Mediatakeout, she couldn't understand why Erykah keeps getting pregnant. My mom does not like Erykah Badu at all since she swears that Ms. Badu disrespected her. But now she really does not like her because she won't use birth control and the fact that she has three different baby fathers, that's just peeving her. Of course my mom has a lot of time on her hands because really...

What Erykah or anybody decides or does is their business!

Like Erykah said in her response/rant, "Who is the judge?".

As opinionated as I am, I try not to judge. Because I'm not perfect. Because I could have 10 children and just as many baby fathers. Because it's not my battle! Because she could be me or any woman that I know of.

Judgement is always harsh. It's not criticism where we say or do things to help the person along in life. Judgement is brow-beating a person for what WE think they should do because whatever they are doing is wrong. Judgement is placing a label on them... she's a slut, a whore, she's undesirable, she's less of a woman. Judging someone sets us apart from each other. We tend to think that that person is wrong and we are right. As for Erykah... she could have had 3 abortions... it's her body, her life, her conscious, her decision.

What also bothers me is that I know that the bulk of the comments and judgements are coming from women. Who better understands a woman who falls in love with 2 and now 3 men... than another woman. She has children with these men and she's raising them all the while wondering if the next man or the man in her life is going to accept her and her children. If he's going to mistreat or abuse her or her children. Who better understands a woman's concern of her man loving her AND her children, even though her children have fathers, who may or may not be present and active... than another woman. Who better understands a woman who loves a man so much that she wants to have a child/children with him, grow and build with him... than another woman.

Life doesn't always going along the path we plan but we still must live our lives to the fullest. I completely understand it and Erykah is one sassy woman! She basically said, hate it or love it - "Kiss my placenta!" Go Erykah go!

In case you haven't read or heard about the rant...

Romans 2: 1-3
God's Righteous Judgment
"You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. Now we know that God's judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God's judgment?"


The True Urban Queen aka Sharon said...

I didn't even know that Erykah had another baby. Where have I been?

I can't talk about her and her choices because I am guilty of making some poor ones myself.
I could have a child by another man. I have slipped up. It didn't happen. But, it very well could have.
I am not saying Erykah's choice is poor. I am saying unless you are getting it right all the time. . .everyday then don't judge.

Sadly, that is how people are. I could tell my life story to people and along the way they would turn their nose up at me. Tell me what I should or should not have done. Judge.

That is why I am living my life my way now. I use to care about what people thought now I care about how I feel about the choices I made.
Cause, in the end God is my judge.

Ticia said...

I really loved what MS.Badu had to say...

Some folks are so judgemental - man - as if they live a sinless life - we all have our problems -

We don't know her or her circumstances....

MsKnowitAll said...

Queen... you & me both. I have never been pregnant before but I very well could have been and Lord knows that I've made some mistakes in my life. God is my judge and people need to learn kindness.

Ticia... Hey Girl! Yes I love Ms. Badu's response. Nobody lives in a glass house...

Anonymous said...

What kills me is the main folks saying we shouldn't judge her are the main ones who judge.

I like your take on it because as women, we should totally understand what it's like to love. Many of us have loved more than once in our lives and will more than likely love a million times. I thank God that I did not conceive on the times I slipped up. He could have turned His back and I would be in the same position as Erykah and the many others who have more than one baby's father.

I think we all have a tendency to cast slight judgement, though. I am guilty at times. I do have to remind myself to look at my tattoo that says "Only God Can Judge Me". Sometimes we have to be reminded that we all have our faults.

LOL @ your mom saying she disrespected her over the napkin. I would probably feel the same way.

MsKnowitAll said...

Jewells... after Erykah's rant, my mother said now everybody sees the nastiness that I saw. She's hilarious.

You're right, we all judge. And Erykah can be one weird behind woman! I try not to but every now and then I too slip up. I think right about now especially Obama & Jesse, this is definitely a time we should be united.